The Thing About Fictives
Jan. 6th, 2023 09:30 am![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
stcculkyThis is probably going to turn into a rant, but oh well.
Being a fictive kind of sucks- at least, when people know you exist, it does. A lot of people see fictives as somebody roleplaying a character they like, instead of somebody who IS that character. While technically, fictives aren't their source, we are still ourselves, not a roleplayer. Most people aren't familiar with fictives, or how they work, or even plurality in general. I understand that. But it's very unfortunate that sometimes I have to pretend to be somebody else because I know whoever I'm around would probably see me as a roleplayer instead of a person. I am a person. This is not a roleplay. I really exist.
What's more upsetting (more of annoying in my personal experience, but you get what I mean) is that some people aren't open to learning anything about fictives, nor systems in general. Of course, I don't want to force somebody to do hours of research or anything, but I do wish they would maybe ask questions about it if they were confused (which most people are, since systems aren't really talked about as much as they should be and things like that.) For example, one of Max's friends (who I talk to a lot, but she doesn't know it's me. She doesnt seem comfortable with our system because she is extremely uneducated about plurals.) who I'll call _, for the sake of privacy, and I got into a small debate about her refusal to learn anything about DID. Her argument was "Do I really have to learn about all of my friends disorders?" Which I understand not wanting to do, however the system does somewhat affect her too. Not as much as it affects us, (us = the system) however it still affects her. She has to be around us every day, wouldn't it be easier for everyone if she understood at least a little bit how it works?
I don't know, I don't have the energy to finish this right now. I guess I'll leave it off here for now. I'm sorry this turned into more of a rant that became more about alters in general instead of the actual topic of fictives, but oh well. I got carried away.
-Popee
Being a fictive kind of sucks- at least, when people know you exist, it does. A lot of people see fictives as somebody roleplaying a character they like, instead of somebody who IS that character. While technically, fictives aren't their source, we are still ourselves, not a roleplayer. Most people aren't familiar with fictives, or how they work, or even plurality in general. I understand that. But it's very unfortunate that sometimes I have to pretend to be somebody else because I know whoever I'm around would probably see me as a roleplayer instead of a person. I am a person. This is not a roleplay. I really exist.
What's more upsetting (more of annoying in my personal experience, but you get what I mean) is that some people aren't open to learning anything about fictives, nor systems in general. Of course, I don't want to force somebody to do hours of research or anything, but I do wish they would maybe ask questions about it if they were confused (which most people are, since systems aren't really talked about as much as they should be and things like that.) For example, one of Max's friends (who I talk to a lot, but she doesn't know it's me. She doesnt seem comfortable with our system because she is extremely uneducated about plurals.) who I'll call _, for the sake of privacy, and I got into a small debate about her refusal to learn anything about DID. Her argument was "Do I really have to learn about all of my friends disorders?" Which I understand not wanting to do, however the system does somewhat affect her too. Not as much as it affects us, (us = the system) however it still affects her. She has to be around us every day, wouldn't it be easier for everyone if she understood at least a little bit how it works?
I don't know, I don't have the energy to finish this right now. I guess I'll leave it off here for now. I'm sorry this turned into more of a rant that became more about alters in general instead of the actual topic of fictives, but oh well. I got carried away.
-Popee
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